Welcome! I’m Michelle, a Clinical Psychologist who writes a bit and thinks a lot. I started this blog in 2016 following the death of my first daughter Orla who was stillborn at 37 weeks. I felt desperately alone in my grief and found solace in writing. In doing so, I found a lifesaving community of other parents who could truly understand the visceral nature of losing a baby.
I have shared my experience of the marathon that is pregnancy after loss, the conflicting and confusing emotions of bringing home a live baby (who is now the most utterly incredible five-year-old!) and my struggles with my mental health as a result. Six years down the line, I am now adjusting to our reality that there will be no more babies. And whilst this was not how I imagined it would be, I genuinely feel deep joy and gratitude alongside my heartache.
I can hardly believe that this year I will have been working as a psychologist for 19 years. From inpatient units, prisons and children’s social care to my own private practice, I have had the pleasure of providing therapy to many, many people. I have a particular interest in trauma and specialise in Schema Therapy and EMDR.
You can read more about my therapy practice here.
I also know how hard it can be to find the right support when a baby dies. Alongside my therapy practice, I also run The Loss Collective with the wonderful Anna who is a Bereavement Specialist Midwife. We provide training to healthcare teams across the country on how to support those who have experienced perinatal loss. Our website hub is coming very soon…
After some very difficult years, I am working hard on rediscovering the things that bring me joy: drinking tea from handmade mugs, reading, beach walks and perusing antique shops to name a few.
Thank you for stopping by my corner of the internet. I hope that you find something helpful.
Much love, Michelle x